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How Does The Holiday Season Affect You?

11/27/2013

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As the Holiday season begins, many individuals tend to look forward to the thought of being around family and friends, celebrating traditions, and/or shorter work weeks. Some individuals, however, can find this time of year, anxiety-provoking, depressing and emotionally exhausting.  

Holidays often equate to engaging in family-oriented gatherings, which depending on family dynamics, can result in increased anxiety for some individuals. Worrying about mom's approval of a new partner, wondering whether dad will continue to express his disappointment with your career choice, or stressing about your sibling(s) willingness to understand how much help you really need with caring for your parents, are a few examples of situations that can provoke anxiety thereby causing a person to dread the holiday season. 

This time of year can also be depressing for individuals who lack familial support, are not involved in a significant relationship or are going through a life-hardship that prevents them from celebrating the season as they would like. And while they may choose to not celebrate, commercial advertisements and/or innocent questions like, "What are you doing for the holiday?" etc., can serve as a reminder of what they don't have thus causing a negative association with the holiday. 

Last but not least, emotional exhaustion is a common feeling many individuals experience during this time of year. Sometimes the mere thought of all the planning, traveling and socializing a person will have to engage in, is enough to bring about a "cloud of gloom." In other cases, memory of last year's disorder, dysfunction or drama can serve as a blockade to feeling cheerful about celebrating this year. 

With all of that said, it is important to be aware of your feelings during this time of year and to not let it get the best of your ability to function. Talking with friends and family you trust and/or with a therapist about how you truly feel can help you get to the bottom of what you are experiencing, learn ways to resolve it and hopefully make next year's holiday season a more cheerful one. 

Do you tend to experience any of the above when the holiday season approaches? If so, how do you deal with it? Please share your thoughts below. 


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Paul Turner link
12/11/2013 06:35:20 am

When I lost my father in 1994, the first 3 Christmases afterwards were sad enough, yet in by Christmas 1997 my mother had met a man and they were beginning to form a close relationship. I recall the 3 of us went to a carol-singing event at a local church, and during some of the singing, they held each other close. Seeing that, plus hearing the nice Christmas music, really hit me in a very sad way. I was happy for my mother, yet sad that it wasn't my father she was holding close.
I lived with my parents during the last few years of my Dad's life, and was glad to not only be with my Dad, but to provide respite for my Mom. We did have to enter him into a "group home" where he died, but I cherish the few years I had with him before he died. I'm very close to my remaining family today, and am not as emotional these years as I was before at Christmas time, yet Christmas Day is one of many days each year that I devote much of the day thinking of him.
I do talk with a therapist on a certain anxiety-related issue, and my Dad pops in and out of our discussions at times. I believe I am learning to cope with feelings of holiday anxiety, yet moments of reflection at those times still exist.

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Christine M. Valentin link
12/12/2013 03:15:04 am

Paul,
Thank you for sharing your personal situation. I'm sure both your mother and father appreciated the time you were able to dedicate to caring for both of them. I'm happy to hear that as the years pass by, you are feeling better. Therapy can definitely help with that and I congratulate you for taking the initiative to care for yourself as well. Thank you again and Happy Holidays!

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